A few weeks ago, I posted on here that I was trying to get in touch with my friend and couldn't. I was in denial that maybe she had changed her number and accidentally lost my contact info, or that she was in a hospital or that something really bad happened to her. This is because, I had not heard from her after more than a month. We used to talk nearly every day. I knew she was going through a lot, but after several weeks of trying to get in touch with her (even begging her to just shoot me a text that she is okay, even if she wanted space), she finally returned my phone call today.

She told me that after we went out to eat, she took something I said out of context. She said I made things too much about "me" after she shared something negative about her boss, which we talked about many times before on the phone, where I've given her a lot of my time and support listening. I was still supportive that day when we went out....

I thought it ended well (so I thought) that last time we spoke that day we went out. We laughed, we hugged, and went our separate ways. I even paid a little more for dinner out of care for her, without expecting anything in return. I did not know at all that I had done something wrong until being ghosted for a whole month!! I had sent a card reaching out even, because she had not responded to my numerous texts and calls, just wanting to know if she was alive at that point.

I don't know how to proceed. I showed understanding once she got back to me, but made it clear that it did not feel good to be ignored and left in the dark for weeks at a time. She said she was going through a lot and did say sorry, but I was taken aback when she shared what she was mad at, with me having no idea. She is always in crisis and has difficulties with people in a wide variety of settings. I know she's been through a lot in the past. Do I have the right to feel that I was mistreated by being given the silent treatment?

I understand if she wanted space and not to talk, but to deliberately not respond to texts of me worrying about her for weeks at a time felt horrible. I try to give her excuses, and she makes them too based on having "a lot going on," but I can't help thinking it's playing the victim too much. I have my problems too with Bipolar Disorder, but I wouldn't treat a friend this way. I don't know how to move forward.