It took over a year and a half before I got a hug. My T does not initiate physical contact with clients, but is not opposed to it in certain circumstances.
We had a couple of talks in regards to how I miss "safe" touch. And after a particular hard session she offered me a hug. We don't hug every session, but my T has said that I am welcome at anytime to ask for a hug and she will oblige.
For me, hugs every session would be overwhelming and probably detract from the whole point of feeling safe and having safe touch so I don't frequently ask.
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