I think I found a new group of friends. It's like you guys steal the words from my mouth! I can see both sides of the coin...I find myself trying to get my boys to be resilient and be able to be strong individuals mentally. I try to be loving, though I often fall short I am sure. At the same time, I always thought I was resilient as a child, and happy, but I had some s**t too. Sexual molestation as a child, led to late teen self-hatred, SI, alcohol abuse, and sequelae that eventually have been dx as major depression. All that been said, I still feel my normal is/should be happy and well adjusted. Right now, I am starting to wonder if middle-age bipolar is a possibility. Ha! Guess I need to buck up myself!