My wife and I have been married for over six years. We met two years after her separation from her ex and several months after their divorce. This came in yesterday. Within the past six months, he has been telling her she was unfaithful to him with me. It is a recent development. For the first 7 years of our relationship, he attacked everything about her, but never accused her of adultery. No idea where this stuff is coming from. How does one deal with this guy?

Dear XXXX,

You have once more been successful at undermining my authority with OUR Children... (as you have done so many times in the past) In this case, this time, with XXXXX. It continues to evidence that you just don't have an understanding of how successful joint parenting is supposed to be done. I really feel very sorry for you in the sense that OUR Children will soon discover and realize the harm and devastation you have inflicted upon them. The TRUTH Will ALWAYS Surface and it truly saddens me to know that our children will have to be dealt yet another blow in regards to their reality of who and what their mother is really about. They will inevitably come to know that their mother broke her vows of marriage and slept with another man. They will know that their own flesh and blood (mother) brainwashed them to alienate them from a father who unselfishly loves them. They will know that their mother took up with a man who is A Real Control Freak and will know that the lies about their father being controlling were exactly that, LIES!

With all this said, you need to know that I HURT FOR YOU and for OUR CHILDREN who must suffer the most. I have and will continue to forgive you you for your choices because I refuse to be a slave to the past. Know that you are forgiven and that I excitedly anticipate your statements of contrite, awareness, acceptance and ownership of your choices for the betterment of OUR Children. My heart breaks and aches for you and our children. And know that as the mother of our children, I continue to and will always have, love and respect in my heart for you.

God's Peace and
Godspeed,
-XXXX