Has anyone been hurt by a friend at one point, and then after some time, decided to give them a second chance? I am currently doing this with a casual friend. We met four years ago in college and at that time she would ask for money too much and ignore me completely and exclude me from our group of friends when we wpuld all hang out. She would even go as far as to make plans without me, only to have another friend ask whether or not I was joining them.

That happened multiple times. The other group members liked me around but this one friend didn’t for some reason. If it was just me and her, she would tear me like she really liked me as a friend and even at times invited me to do stuff with her one-on-one, but when it came to group situations, she was horrible. I even called her out on it and at that time she wasn’t happy about it, but now, she admits to it. She admitted that she treated me poorly about a year or two ago. We don’t hang out that much but at least we are on good terms.

She admitted to treating me like crap and explained that even though it is no excuse, she was trying to pretend to be someone she was not and was trying too hard to fit in. She no longer hangs out with the other grpup members. They eventually started to dislike her. I was glad she admitted it since no one else in the past has done that. She actually had the guts to come out and admit her faults. And that’s why I decided to give her a second chance. At first before she did that, I planned on cutting her off for good, but then decided to give her one more chance, and just one. Has a friend ever admitted their wrongdoings to you and then changed their behavior? Were you able to fully trust them? Just wondered since it can be risky.

I feel like in general, giving a friend who treated you poorly in the past a second chance, even if they admitted it and said sorry like my casual friend did, there is still a risk involved since they could easily do it again. Most people actually wind up doing the same crap again. I will admit even now, I still sometomes secretly worry she will go back to her old ways again. But it has been a little over two years since she apologized so the chances decrease hopefully. The only real complaint is she is very on and off in terms of keeping in contact and hanging out. She went through another period of wanting to hang out a lot, which we did, to going totally non-existant, and then back to wanting to hang out. The cycle repeats. That has been the pattern for years and she is like that with a lot of people. Despite it being annoying, I am used to it. Other than that, she is nice. How do you feel about giving a friend a second chance, especially if they admit their wrongdoings and give an explaination? Just wondered.