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Originally Posted by divine1966
These aren’t kind of men you should worry about or waste your time on. No point asking why they behave this way. It’s becayse that’s who they are
To all honesty when you said that the guy works in porn industry (he likely not, but says to see how you react and in hopes he either gets laid or can make fun of a woman or degrade her), I knew he’ll send his pic and ask for yours and this isn’t going to be respectful conversation. And I was right. Not only he said what he does before Even meeting you (for obvious reason) but he also sent you pic of his privates and you thought that’s ok because it’s his job and you even asked him more questions (not seeing big red banners not just flags)!
Somehow you expected something different? I think you might have to work on recognizing red flags (my therapist was helpful with that).
You are talking to low class men but expect high class behavior from them. It’s not happening.
Makes me think of a tale about scorpion and a frog, “that’s what scorpions do”. Makes me think of how I was in a relationship with alcoholic expecting him not drink. Yeah ok. Was stupid of me
I am glad that other guy sounds polite. Forget about other ones
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I disagree. You're being very judgmental and not listening to what I'm saying. Just because he works in the porn industry doesn't mean he's low class. Like I said, I'm very open-minded about sex, and it's not a deal breaker for me. Just because you don't approve of it doesn't mean the people who do it are low-class. And just because someone has different values that you doesn't make them low-class either. And having a certain job doesn't necessarily mean it's a red flag. And what you might not be interested in doesn't mean that I'm not.
I have no problem recognizing red flags, thank you very much. Obviously I don't since the second he put an ultimatum on me I said goodbye and deleted his number. I didn't say I thought it was okay that he sent me a **** pic but that I wasn't surprised by it considering that he's clearly so open sexually. So you aren't really listening to what I'm saying, and I really don't need the judgement.
The point is that these men sending me these nasty messages is degrading. And it's not just him, or did you not read all of my post?
Thanks for contributing to the problem. You're like the person who blames the rape victim for being on the wrong side of town. "What did you expect?" Shameful.
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