I know this feels personal, but I don't think it is. I think 50% of all men don't think cheating on a woman matters. It doesn't mean 50% of all men cheat. It means half of them don't think it's a big deal to cheat. Out of 100 men, 50 don't think it's a big deal to cheat. But not all 50 of them will cheat. Out of the 50 that don't think cheating is a big deal, 30 of them will actually cheat, no matter who they are with at the time. This is what makes it not personal. Those men will cheat on anyone they are with. Of the 30 men that cheat, 10 will try hard to not get caught. The other 20 won't care enough about the woman to care if they get caught. Of the 20 who don't care if they get caught, 10 of them won't even view the woman as human. Those are the men who will verbally abuse a woman, they are what I would call PIGS. Donald Trump falls in this category. Of those 10 men, 1 or 2 will physically hurt a woman, rape, abuse, etc. Harvey Weinstein falls in this category.

I'm sorry, but I believe men behaving badly, even if it's merely believing there's nothing really wrong with cheating, applies to a full 50% of the entire male population. This is also why it's not personal, it's what they are like. My daughter had two serious, long term relationships from age 18 to age 28, both of them cheated on her. I'm so glad she didn't marry either of them. I feel for you, but it's not you, so you need to stop thinking like that. Half of all men don't "get it." So, play the odds, don't rush into a relationship. And don't forget, half of the men you might team up with are going to be duds. But don't hate men, that's not helpful. Just don't get hung up on why did this happen to me. You know why, because half of all men are clueless about how to treat a woman.