My husband has the following symptoms of autism. He can't maintain a conversation. As I talk, he will turn away and gaze at something. This is when I know 100% of what I'm saying is not being heard. If I say "look at me," he will look at me, then I know he's hearing about half of what I say. I may have to say look at me twice during each conversation. He also blurts out inappropriate things, for no reason whatsoever, such as "Calebs legs have gotten really chunky." First, no one cares and second, it's something you think, but don't say out loud. So he says inappropriate things in public on a regular basis. He doesn't know what inappropriate behaviour is, on the part of others and on the part of himself. He might go behind a counter in a restaurant and help himself to something. He doesn't understand boundaries. He doesn't understand if a behaviour is abnormal, so he sees abnormal behaviour in others as normal. He notices that the railing on this side of this staircase in the mall is taller than the railing on that side of the staircase. So he notices things, like a slightly crooked floor tile, where no one else would notice. And he wants to talk about it. He invents problems for us to solve. So he wants to solve a problem "that might happen." He gets completely obsessed with some things, to the point where he will completely neglect important daily things. Even small changes bother him, such as moving the furniture around. He interrupted me when I was getting ready for an important appointment to discuss why there was an empty shoe box in the recycle bin. Small things bother him, like the time I forgot to put water chestnut in the turkey stuffing. Even if it delayed dinner by an hour, he would push to "fix the problem" of the missing water chestnut. I think most people ought to be able to eat turkey stuffing with or without water chestnut. I can throw something in the garbage and he might retrieve it, even if the object belonged only to me. He's not angry or judgmental about these things, he can just get obsessive over throwing things out, to the point where I may have to hide what I throw out deep in the garbage can, in case it bothers him that I threw something out. Does anyone here know anything about Autism, as I think it probably describes his peculiar behaviour best. He's been on anti-depressants for 10 years, but he displayed all of these behaviours before he was put on anti-depressants.
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