I hope you do not mind my saying -- as in "think it, say it" -- I could not refrain from chuckling a bit as I read your description of myself as a brilliant-minded Aspie stuck somewhere between Rainman and Spock. Are your husband's symptoms actually causing trouble for you or are you simply trying to identify and understand what might be behind them? Either way, you will have to learn to work within his own self-awareness (assuming he has some) and atypical neurology (brain function) if you might wish to help him at least try to learn to adjust his actions a bit. However, please be certain to always remember his thoughts and actions are quite normal for him and that it would be fruitless and even abusive to try to make him become something (neurotypical) he simply cannot ever be.