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Originally Posted by seesaw
My profile is specific that I'm looking for a long-term relationship, that I want kids, and that if you all your going to do is send me a **** pic, then swipe left. It specifically says that. And still, men ignore it and send me dirty messages anyway. I have found that the paid sites are just as bad as the free sites. And I'm not going to spend money on the paid sites, especially when the results, IMO, are so poor. There's not much benefit to paying other than the ability to stalk people you message by seeing if they read your message or when they're online.
Seesaw
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I'm not too familiar with that particular app... with the swipe left or right part, are they just looking at a picture of you or the whole profile? I'm honestly curious.
I had the best results with OKcupid, but it has also been awhile since I gave up on online dating, so the quality of people using any online sites may have gone down since then.
Like you said, not all men are like that, and I am in no way implying it is something you are or aren't doing. I was giving my experience and what I did to help with the problem. Even with those changes, I probably replied to 10% of messages I got, and conversations kept going for maybe 30% of those because they didn't stick to my boundaries.
I found it's just the atmosphere of being online... there are really no consequences of being an ***. Unfortunately for those of us who do have respect for ourselves, these men who send **** pics actually have success with that approach some of the time, so they don't care if they offend 7 out of 10 women. That means that 3 of those 10 it worked with...
That does not in any way excuse the behavior. I was trying to help find a way to make it better, but it seems that the other responses made mine not come off the way I intended it.