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Oct 23, 2017, 10:51 PM
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Originally Posted by childofchaos831
I'm not too familiar with that particular app... with the swipe left or right part, are they just looking at a picture of you or the whole profile? I'm honestly curious.
I had the best results with OKcupid, but it has also been awhile since I gave up on online dating, so the quality of people using any online sites may have gone down since then.
Like you said, not all men are like that, and I am in no way implying it is something you are or aren't doing. I was giving my experience and what I did to help with the problem. Even with those changes, I probably replied to 10% of messages I got, and conversations kept going for maybe 30% of those because they didn't stick to my boundaries.
I found it's just the atmosphere of being online... there are really no consequences of being an ***. Unfortunately for those of us who do have respect for ourselves, these men who send **** pics actually have success with that approach some of the time, so they don't care if they offend 7 out of 10 women. That means that 3 of those 10 it worked with...
That does not in any way excuse the behavior. I was trying to help find a way to make it better, but it seems that the other responses made mine not come off the way I intended it.
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You're response was fine. I just had already done all the things you suggested. I don't know if they are reading my profile or not. I'm on OKC and on Tinder. I know some people will say Tinder is a hook up app, but the guy I'm seeing now I met through Tinder and he's been very respectful and sweet.
Yeah, your analysis of the statistics seem right on. I still think it's terrible and inexcusable that their behavior is seen as fine by society...and we wonder why women are still paid 79 cents on the dollar to men, have to fight for birth control and other health insurance benefits...it starts with letting men talk to us this way and send us **** pics.
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