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Originally Posted by annielovesbacon
Things I wish I could have in therapy:
- more time. I only get to see my therapist every other week, at best. Sometimes I have to wait three weeks or even longer. It's not her fault, she works in a clinic that doesn't turn patients down.
- more personal connection. My T knows so much about me but I know nothing about her. I don't need to know her personal problems or life story or anything, but I'd love to know little things. What music does she like? What's her favorite book? What does she do for fun?
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Same. I see T once a fortnight at best. Often have to wait 3 weeks. Spent a year seeing her once a month. Now waiting 7 weeks.
T says she self discloses more to me than some patients but she never even tells me anything personal. I had to ask if she could tell me in advance when she'd be away so I don't call the clinic. She briefly mentioned she won't be around but let me think it was a work course. Then I find out on her public instagram that she's on vacation.
The people in her real life get to have her as a friend...she has friendships spanning 15+ years. She has close confidants and most of her friends seem to adore her. She's got great colleagues...
"My therapist is not the mother or father I never had. I never had nor will I ever have the parent I never had. Therapy should help us to understand what was missing, but it cannot reverse the loss of what we missed. Good therapy can help us overcome those deficits that arise from faulty parenting. Just as paying for therapy helps us realise that we have to purchase what we did not receive from our parents, termination helps us realise in a final and painful way what we will never receive."
-- "A Perilous Calling: The Hazards of Psychotherapy Practice"
by Michael B. Sussman