You don't cause/MAKE him do anything, or abusing you. He is a classic abuser; blaming the victim. The terrible thing is that is is also abusing your child. You can call the domestic violence hotline. He could kill yu eventually.

He doesn't love his son; fathers don't abuse; he is teaching your son that his behavior is okay. Please get help. I stayed for 31 years; he didnt change.

One sentence helped me get out..."Try to let the side of you that is trying to save yourself....win." Abusers rarely change unless they think they have a problem; they think everything is someone else's fault