I believe my lover has Asperger's syndrome. He is a loner and stays home after work. He lives alone and does not party that much. He is fluent in Japanese and English and is a physics doctorate. I like him a lot and realize his lack of social skills is awkward for him but for me is kind of cute. He is younger than I am. I like talking with him when he does talk. Most of the time though he does not write to me so we talk mostly when we meet. I write him messages though once in awhile. He writes sporadically. He also does not say much most of the time. He is really smart. I was trying to figure him out and realized he may have Asperger's. I was shocked at first. He won't admit he has Asperger's. But, his social isolation and his obsession with work makes me believe otherwise. He is doing really well and I am happy for him. But, he does not relate well to others. I thought he was selfish at first but after talking to him and being with him, he is socially awkward and can't relate to others. It is ok. Nobody is perfect and neither am I. He does not know I have a mental illness myself. So, we are both trying to fool each other when in reality we are not fooling anybody but ourselves. It is in a way a relief to know he is ill too. I was afraid that he would not accept me but we have been seeing each other for about 10 months now. I am beginning to know his idiosyncrasies and he is beginning to know mine. But, we like each other and so far I don't mind them. I have some autism myself due to my illness and am more than sympathetic to his problems.