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Originally Posted by Demunie
BF was in session with me today for the first time. It was super awkward.
Somehow they got talking about my father. My BF had cut contact with his dad for a few years multiple years ago (mostly not due to his father but due to his stepmom). BF said how he doesn't understand why I don't just do the same.
T asked me what I think about it etc., agreeing with BF that it's a "bad" relationship. Does T think it would be better to cut off contact with my dad? (rhetorical question of course...). Urgs.
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((Demunie)) I did this also.... if you consider it carefully and that's what you have to do, then that's what you have to do, but don't let anyone pressure you. I don't regret it but I really wasn't expecting the pain of losing what little support I had from my family completely (I thought I could cut off my dad only and maintain the other familial connections but they had a different outlook) and the social stigma that comes with not having a family, at least in my country, is massive. I have to confront it in nearly every conversation I have with people since asking about one's family is a very popular topic when you are getting to know someone. I'm still struggling with this-- it's really brought out my self-isolating tendencies.