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Originally Posted by growlycat
Therapy with my current t seems to be running up against limitations. Even ones I did not think of. Sometimes the boundary seems fuzzy and he feels like a friend. I know he can't be. Last week he hurt me a little by saying I dress to be invisible. The more we talked about it we stumbled into odd territory. At one point said he can't go shopping with me and help me with a makeover because it crosses boundaries. I told him that I don't think I was asking for that??? It is strange how some things are not boundaried and some oddball thing I didn't ask for is somehow off limits? So yeah I wish he were my friend because is is just so so as a therapist.
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Oh wow, that would be a one-way ticket to Rupture Town for me. First that he would assume you would want that (and even if you did, that he thinks he has good enough style sense to tell you how to dress). And then that he preemptively rejected something you didn't even ask for. And finally I have found that entertaining the thought of something like that in therapy, your T helping you with something important, even knowing it couldn't or wouldn't happen, can be incredibly useful. But it only works as long as the T doesn't insist on driving in the Boundary Truck and parking it right on top of the idea. The image or thought of re-writing the script is surprisingly powerful.