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Originally Posted by leejosepho
I hope you do not mind my saying -- as in "think it, say it" -- I could not refrain from chuckling a bit as I read your description of myself as a brilliant-minded Aspie stuck somewhere between Rainman and Spock. Are your husband's symptoms actually causing trouble for you or are you simply trying to identify and understand what might be behind them? Either way, you will have to learn to work within his own self-awareness (assuming he has some) and atypical neurology (brain function) if you might wish to help him at least try to learn to adjust his actions a bit. However, please be certain to always remember his thoughts and actions are quite normal for him and that it would be fruitless and even abusive to try to make him become something (neurotypical) he simply cannot ever be.
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I think I'm trying to gain a better understanding of what I'm dealing with from others who are outside of the situation. I'm walking a fine line between pushing for him to compensate for his disruptive behaviour through mindfulness and behaviour modification and leaving him to indulge in his disruptive behaviour. Right now, I only push extremely hard if his disruptive behaviour may lead to harm to himself or others, such as his propensity to take his focus off the road when he's driving. He will obsessively change the radio station nine times in one minute. Meanwhile the car is moving all over the road and sometimes moves outside of his lane. My opinion is this: do you even need to have the radio on at all? If you are not good at keeping control of the vehicle when you change the radio station, perhaps you shouldn't even have the radio on. In addition, this is an obsessive behaviour.