sorry.... butting in for a moment....
then why do we always find the jerks? the ones who dont follow any of those things you guy just listed?
i basically had to hunt my boyfriend down because i thought to myself "he is a good guy and im through with jerks." but he is so insecure and shy that he never approaches girls. why is it that the ones with charm and carisma are the ones who screw us over and the nice guys, who we need even when we dont admit it, are too busy not going out meeting people. if nice guys would get out there and not be so shy maybe the saying "nice guys finish last" wouldnt exist.
sorry again... please continue