I just have to vent and get this out, so I apologize in advance if this post isn't very interesting or helpful to others. I know my Ts birthday is around Holloween time as she's mentioned that before in the past. Today I had written her a happy birthday note to give to her in my session this afternoon... I was also thinking of making something for her, but was afraid giving her a gift might trigger me (if she didn't respond in the way I hoped for, etc.). Anyways, today I asked her if her birthday this week, to which she replied, "Yes". I asked her what day and she wouldn't tell me because of her privacy boundaries. After writing this out, I'm realizing how silly it is to be triggered by such a thing. I don't know why it hurts so much, but I think it was just a reminder that I'm never going to be more than a client to her.