My T has told me "It's NOT OK" that I "get so angry inbetween sessions, then come in and shut down" (her quoted words) so I, too, am trying to "bring the anger in"...and it's difficult!

Recently she dug around lots trying to find out if I get angry about how she ALWAYS buzzes me in late. I actually wasn't angry or frustrated in the beginning but as she dug and went on and on about "how do you feeel?" (While telling me we'd talk about what I wanted to talk about later), I got pissed enough to go "I'm always on time. I feel you take it for granted." and then I sniped that she's wasting MY time.

The big rage outbursts at her only happen out of session still though Rage outbursts for me in session tend to be directed at myself and expressed through self harm.