Here's an issue that I have been having lately:
I have accomplished a lot lately. In the past year, I went from a mentally unstable person who couldn't even take care of my basic needs and couldn't support myself financially to somebody who is working and attending college. I also just got my own apartment for the first time in my life and I have been able to afford furniture and what not so I have been doing pretty well.
Unfortunately, I am still sometimes scared of losing everything that I've worked so hard for. I fear not being smart enough in school and losing my student job and the resources that I have access to at college (free therapy student job, FAFSA refunds, special programs for students from low income students and foster care youth, ETC). I know that if I fail at school, I will lose everything and that terrifies me. I am also scared because winter is coming and if I lost my apartment for whatever reason, I know that I can't function in the cold because I can barely deal with donating plasma when they keep it at 68 degrees without freezing my butt off, let alone not having any shelter. I also know that because I don't know how to drive yet, I will have a hell of a time getting where I need to go if something bad happens like a disaster or if I lose my job and can't find another job on campus.
My fears aren't entirely unwarented. I picked my major as web design, which is a computer science based degree. I picked a major that requires a lot of math, despite sucking at any math above basic algebra. I had to drop an 8 week college prep math class because it was going too fast for me and I found it impossible to keep up with it along with my other courses. I am also falling behind in my web design class because my step father passing away last month and then having to move to my new apartment while dealing with the buses and keeping up with my other classes became too much for me to handle all at once. While, if I fail my web design class, I have the option to do a forced withdrawl of my bad grade because I had a death of an immediate family member, I know that this is an out that I will only get once and if I fail again next semester and don't have a backup plan, I am most likely screwed.
So I guess my question is: how does one cope with these fears?
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