Hello meerkat: I'm sorry you & your gf are having such a difficult time. From what you wrote, it sounds as though you both are struggling mightily under the weight of your mother's behavior. It's so unfortunate that you tried calling the suicide prevention line & were left hanging on-hold until you finally gave up.

I can't tell you what's going on with your mom, of course. That's something that would need to be determined by a mental health professional. And it doesn't sound like there's any chance your mom is going to seek professional mental health services for herself. So the reality of your situation may well be that things just are not going to change much in the foreseeable future.

You mentioned both you & your gf will be going to college soon. I don't recall you mentioning if either or both of you plan to live at home or if you'll be living at school. I recall, many years ago, I lived at home for the first couple of years I was in college. I then moved into a dorm at school & for me it was a breath of fresh air. The reality here may be that you & your gf are simply going to have to tough this situation out until you can get away from your parents' home.

Some couples counseling might be beneficial for the two of you if you could arrange it. But, of course, there would have to be some way to pay for it. I presume your parents would not. If your gf's parents are financially well-off, might they consider doing so? Of course where you live also makes a big difference. If you live in a metropolitan area there are likely to be a wider variety of services available. In a more metropolitan area, you might be able to locate some counseling services that are geared toward teens. If your area is more rural, your options are going to be significantly more limited.

I wish I had some more specific suggestions to offer you. There are other hotlines you might consider trying. Here's a link to PsychCentral's hotline list:

https://psychcentral.com/lib/common-...phone-numbers/

And then continuing to post, here on PC, can help too. I wish you both the best.