I'm sorry, but some parts of this thread are making me simultaneously amused and annoyed. yes, as adult children, it is your children's prerogative if they want to be "dysfunctional" and "unhappy". as a parent, you can't control your children, and as an adult child whose parents tried to control me growing up, and then control what kind of mental health assistance I got and didn't get, I would really suggest not pushing your daughter into anything.

the above quote is just funny. where I live, about 80% of drivers need reminding not to use their phones when they drive and most people in shops need reminding about not infringing on people's personal space. I would say that the vast majority of people have these "abnormalities" and they are basically a by product of the human race being self-centred. if you are so focused on getting your family members diagnosed with something, make them go to a doctor.