Sounds like a nice reunion with T Mouse.

I wonder if 'controlling' is also about the way you were told about being adopted and wishing your birth mother would have been able to raise you.

That must have been something to think of how it might have been for your birth mother. I have to think that having to give up children would affect a mother for the rest of her life. I also was going to give up my son many years ago; in many ways, I think I was very selfish that I didn't.