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Oct 27, 2017, 05:09 PM
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Originally Posted by Fluffyraincloud
Can only call him "Sir" or some other similar name. Owner, God, Daddy. I like it. It makes me so sad. Sometimes. But i like it. I have to. There is no turning back, ever. He said today that he did this because i liked it. He said overthinking is hurting him, and myself. IŽll just stop thinking.
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Do you understand that nothing about a healthy relationship should make you sad? It makes you sad that you can't call him by his name, and yet he tells you that it's because you like it when you clearly don't like it, since it makes you sad?
He tells you what you like and don't like, even though you say you don't like it? Relationships are about nurturing each other and being equal partners. He does not nurture you nor are you two equals in the relationship. He's telling you your overthinking it because you are thinking about your own needs and he doesn't care. In a healthy BDSM relationship, if you told him you don't like something, he would respect that. But he doesn't. He doesn't care about your needs.
I hope you can see this.
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Primary Dx: C-PTSD and Severe Chronic Treatment Resistant Major Depressive Disorder
Secondary Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder with mild Agoraphobia.
Meds I've tried: Prozac, Zoloft, Celexa, Effexor, Remeron, Elavil, Wellbutrin, Risperidone, Abilify, Prazosin, Paxil, Trazadone, Tramadol, Topomax, Xanax, Propranolol, Valium, Visteril, Vraylar, Selinor, Clonopin, Ambien
Treatments I've done: CBT, DBT, Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS), Talk therapy, psychotherapy, exercise, diet, sleeping more, sleeping less...
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