I think it's empowering to know these things, so I'm happy you have some feedback with this from them. The next part is deciding if you want to change those things. No one can tell you you have to do this. It's entirely up to you. And if you do try to change those things for someone else, it won't work. All change comes from you, or not. One thing you should know though is: if you do want to change some of those things, it can be done.