yes. definitely can understand and relate. struggle with this too. it is hard to fully trust anyone because people are human, and they will at some point say or do something that will trigger something for me/us.

i have to try to, if i can, remove myself from the emotional part of that and try to see it in another way and remind myself they are human and have flaws too. it depends on the situation, but i have found that is helpful when someone says something that triggers/upsets me but know that they don't mean it. i have a habit of taking things the wrong way or sometimes having things get bigger in my head from an association of something than it was ever intended to be.

i don't know how to really put trust in people, and it also extends to myself. i am trying to learn how to help myself/the others be safe when things start to become big and scary. i do a lot of talking, self care, etc. and find ways in the moment to try to get through it and calm things.

it is hard to find that balance with others and even myself and how to keep things somehow stable. it's a work in progress.