Saluk...we are the caring breed of Gen-X...there are only a handful of us...it is not about confidence, it is about respect...I personally know that a woman like yourself does not want that guy at the bar to come hit on you when you are there to have fun...that being said we look like we are shy...so the next time you see that shy guy at the bar walk over and introduce yourself...because I am sure you will find that he is just being respectful of your thoughts and feelings.