{{{{{{{{{{January}}}}}}}}}} dear friend

We agree with everyone else, it's definitely worth giving it a go with the Red Cross.

Can you reassure your mother that she will never be put in a nursing home again? It must have triggered her badly. Can you arrange for someone to contact you so that you can be with her if this happens again ?

Our mother said she wouldn't live much longer for at least 15 years before she died at age 96.

Darling friend, PM us any time, tc of yourself.