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Old Oct 29, 2017, 04:48 AM
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Originally Posted by golden_eve View Post
In the relationship forum, I wrote about my recent break up with my boyfriend.

Now I cannot eat, I cannot focus, I have a constant feeling of anxiety and panic, and I'm depressed. I don't know how to shift my focus back to work and actually be productive. My emotional upset has interfered entirely with my ability to function.

I finally forced myself to eat some cereal, and will have to force feed myself dinner. But I am devastated to say the least, over what he has done to me and I feel punched in the stomach, like the wind was knocked out of me. I cannot cope with this at all. All the lies.... the conning, and I fed right into ALL of it. I believed his lies and I believed that he's never loved anyone more, which wasn't true at all.

How do I cope??? How do I function again?
Many years ago I was blind-sided by a break up that really left me in a bad place. I won't go into details, but I actually changed my college plans to be closer to him 6 months before he broke up with me. I was devastated and pissed. Anyway, it took me a good six months to get over this break up. I had some issues with classes at first but within a couple weeks was able to keep my focus on them when I needed to. I spent a lot of time on my treadmill, sometimes over an hour a day basically cussing him out when I started, but by the end of each daily treadmill therapy session, I was calmer.

It all takes time. I'm so sorry that this has happened to you, especially in a time when you are interviewing for new jobs. Find your distraction, maybe research some SEO techniques, because we both know they are changing all the time. Try doing some walking, or other exercise. You'll get through this and in the end you'll be better off. Hugs out to you!
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