Hmmm, well, I was married to a man for 20 years, and during the time I was at home caring for our daughter when she was small, he didn't value my presence much. I did all the housework, and had no financial freedom. At that time, I knew many stay-at-home mothers like myself who had credit cards, freedom with the checkbook, etc., but not me! It made me determined to have my own money. I went back to school (since my Art degree was pretty much worthless in rural VA), and got my teaching certificate. Once I started teaching, I set up my own checking account and had my own money! He resented this, but he also treated me with more respect, just because I was earning!
Certainly, not all men feel this way, and there IS value in staying in the home and keeping a smooth ship running, thus, freeing the man to relax a bit and pursue his career and interests, but not all men feel this way....
My sister doesn't work, hasn't for many years, and spends money like water! redecorating her house annually, giving me her castoffs! I continue to be amazed at this.
Patty