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Originally Posted by JTSummer
Hi everyone. I really could use some guidance. I have a very close friend who lost her husband in an overnight accident leaving her a widow with several small children. This happened almost a year ago. I believe she has "complicated grief" and has also been turning to alcohol and drugs to cope. I and our other close friends and family don't know what to do. If anyone tries to approach her even in the gentlest of ways she lashes out and says no one can understand her. She says she feels all alone even though she has the most support I have ever seen this far along. (I too have had an immediate family member die but I can't relate to it being a spouse).
I'm really just looking for help. How do we talk to her even just about normal things? She seems to try to push everyone away and is cold and mean and honestly hurtful to everyone around her. Just lashes out. A friend gently suggested therapy to her and she went off on her. Are we as friends supposed to say something when she turns to alcohol and getting high or is there nothing we can say or do that has any real impact?
Really appreciate any help! Thank you!
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I would just leave her alone for the time being but I would keep an eye on her from a distance. I would anonymously informed the police that she is drinking and doing drugs and their children involved and let them deal with it from their. I would also anonymously contacted cps on her informing that you are in fear of the lives of her children you offer her some help she refused to get any kind of help and is doing things that could affect the safety of her children. Contact the children in school informed them that their mother is high and is drinking and refuse to get any kind of help. This way she will not know who it is that had report her for abuse. This is abuse regardless of what she feel but this abuse by doing drugs and drinking.
I hope this help you in some way.