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Originally Posted by Yzen
I wonder if people like that change their perspective when in a group. One-on-one, their attention is on you. In a group, their attention is on impressing the group or maybe on building friendships with others they don't know as well as you. It is like they take existing friendships for granted and are more interested in the excitement of new friendships in a group setting.
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That makes sense and that could be a factor. In fact, a casual friend who used tondo that to me a few years ago admitted that she ignored me and excluded me in group settings in order to try to invest in new friendships even though I was new to her as well. She just went about it the wrong way by ignoring me and admitting that she was trying to be someone she was not. Unfortunately feeling pressured to be someone you’re not can cause flaky behavior towards others.