Yeah, I have to agree with mulan. The mind is too complicated to even say that it's definitely the person who has to make the changes. I feel that there's a bit of a "chicken and egg" question, too... Who knows? Maybe there's someone who just changes themselves. But for others there's a small, almost insignificant event, and suddenly they come alive... I don't know, I guess it's just my perspective. On the other hand, it's much healthier, when you do change, to take some responsibility for that, otherwise you're just a leaf drifting on water...