That sucks shattered.
For many years I was the taret of egg throwers on Halloween..you may think it would have ruined the holiday, but no, I like dressing up as something/one completely different. It’s fun to not look like yourself sometimes.
Anyway, I’ll say one thing I have learned from experience.
We get what we give. If we don’t show interest in get togethers in a general sense, when it comes time for a holiday party we are not always on the list.
I understand anxiety and other forms of MI make regular social interaction difficult, and we often become “outsiders”.
but you said you wouldn’t go anyway, and Im guessing they probably assumed as much.
I hope you find some happy to you Halloween shattered.