Thanks, mouse, krazibean, confused, and Kiya.

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has he ever initiated an email to you before?

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">I think he may have done it before, but not right after a session to say "Good to see you today." We have email exchanges occasionally and they can be really nice and make me feel very good. Both of our emails are always very brief (and also very informal). It is not me going on at length and dumping my problems to him and expecting long emails back. We do not do email therapy. But his short and sweet emails are very supportive. He is not afraid to show feelings by email, if that makes sense, and uses lots of exclamation points and emoticons. He's just very sweet by email. I lap it up.

Kiya, I'm sorry to hear about your experience with termination. That sounds very painful I hope it will be different for me too.

I still have not responded to T's email. He asked me a question that needs a response, but I haven't done it. I want to say something more substantive than what I usually do in an email, in response to something he said in session. I hope that is not a no-no. I've never done it before. I don't want to monopolize his time outside the hour I pay for, so I don't want a substantive response back from him, but I think what I write to him could be a good thing to take up at our next session. At our last session we briefly touched on payment for his services, in a general way, like his billing practices. He said something like, "and sometimes I spend all this time on phone calls and meetings for my clients when I am not with them, and all this time goes by and I realize I'm not being paid for this. So why am I doing it?" He is looking for a new billing solution instead of his current practice, which is rather relaxed, and not in line with what many other professionals he works with do. (Remember, my T not only does therapy but is a divorce coach and interacts heavily on his clients' behalf out of session with lawyers, financial experts, child therapists, etc.) So I feel especially sensitive that I don't want him spending his unpaid minutes on composing a substantive email back to me. The more I write about this, the more I realize I shouldn't say anything substantive back to him, but should just send a brief message back with a smiley.