I own my house. I have the divorce agreement to say it is mine and that I have control over it. I have agreement that my living expenses while I am living in the house are covered. I have $1000 a month to play with.
I have to figure out how to put up boundaries as to what is my business when talking to my children. With my ex, I told him, when he was threatening my son, that I would phone the police unless he quit it. I am going to go to a lawyer and get advice, so I can have that boundary in place if he threatens me.
My daughter said I should be careful how I act as to how much they will be in my life in the future. I am going to a non-violent communication class tonight, to learn how to tell her, this is not her business. I learnt to do whatever was necessary to get along with my mom who was an alcoholic. I want to learn to do what I want to do to enjoy life now, not just survive. I have a boyfriend who I am learning to say what is important to me. The conversation when it comes to money is way more intimate than sex.