((((Sunny))))

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I don't know. I still love him but I am very sad too, as I feel him slipping away from me. I wonder if this is the beginning of termination? You just start losing the closeness and finally when there is nothing left, there is no point to go to therapy anymore, so you stop. Is that how it is? It's painful.

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Sunny, do you think that T wrote the "thank you note" because he sensed your feelings? Maybe he felt the lack of closeness too and thought that if he caught up on what went on over the course of the past 3 weeks that would bring him closer to where you were?

The first session back for me was blah also. Tonight, I was discussing with T how hard it was to reconnect and he said, "isn't it for everybody?" But tonight was......well.......closer than ever.

So, hang in there. I bet T was trying to get close and it was difficult for both of you. Tell him that you need to re-establish the therapeutic relationship. I would imagine that it's very difficult to differentiate between divorce coach/therapist because the divorce is such a big part of your life right now and T wants to make sure he takes care of you?

Tell him whta you need. I know, you can tell him by return e-mail!

It sounds like a beginning of a new phase--not the ending.

Peace