I have tried talking to her when she says messed up things. She shuts me down quickly. I'm wrong she is right type stuff. You can't have a healthy friendship with stuff like this not to mention you have to avoid many conversation topics in fear that will cause a fight. I'm walking on egg shells....She is not the supportive type at all she frowns on it like its a weakness. I think its time to just go my way she won't change and she won't hinder me changing for the good and to be done with abuse of who ever it is...still sucks