When I left my H after 33 years in a bad marriage I never thoughtvsbout him except when he messes up my credit. It was empowering to be aline for the furst time in my 54 years if life.

In my senior year of HS, had a ling distance relationship from across the country. Got a dear John letter from "dear John"( his name was really John) that he was getting married to a girl in his HS class. Was I pissed off....yiu betcha. This was back when snail mail was the only way to communicate other than phone. Sent him a happy life letter. Later that same summer I got a letter from him whining about how he shouldnt have gotten married. Talk about empowering....my tough **** letter felt so good to write. It was then I determined that I would make sure I never had to marry into the class I wanted to end up in. I would get there through my own hard work & college degree so if i ever did get married I would NEVER be dependent on my H if he ended up a jerk like that long distance guy had. Well, the best laid plans dont always work out like planned even though I did have a good computer engineering career....plans can go arye & I did end up trapped in my bad marriage the last 13 years. Taught myself even more lessons & doubt I will ever consider even dating again at this point in my life.

I am actually MORE emotionally stable now than I ever was before in my life