I have not been here much, at least posting. I am an olderish member here. I have PTSD, depression. I have a daughter who was adopted through foster care. She is now 20 and has been living with abusive boyfriend and family for most of 2 years. She is borderline devbelopmentally delayed. She used to have morals, know the right from wrong, be kind etc. I got a very disturbing letter complete with mispellings asking why I had not mailed her second laptop to her 6 miles away. She was so nasty. I wrote her tonight being kind but also telling her that I was hurt and confused and so is the rest of the family. She does not keep in touch at all. Only if she wants something. While she is delayed she is also rude and cruel. She has bought intothe birth parent lifestyle and the boyfriend lifestyle hook, line and sinker.

I wonder how far I go being mommy nice? I was clear that I felt mistreated and that her laptop had a broken keyboard. I assumed via letter that we would pick her up Sunday for a visit with her sis before she went back to school. What do you all think? What can I do? Anything? Thanks in advance.