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Originally Posted by Curry
I own my house. I have the divorce agreement to say it is mine and that I have control over it. I have agreement that my living expenses while I am living in the house are covered. I have $1000 a month to play with.
I have to figure out how to put up boundaries as to what is my business when talking to my children. With my ex, I told him, when he was threatening my son, that I would phone the police unless he quit it. I am going to go to a lawyer and get advice, so I can have that boundary in place if he threatens me.
My daughter said I should be careful how I act as to how much they will be in my life in the future. I am going to a non-violent communication class tonight, to learn how to tell her, this is not her business. I learnt to do whatever was necessary to get along with my mom who was an alcoholic. I want to learn to do what I want to do to enjoy life now, not just survive. I have a boyfriend who I am learning to say what is important to me. The conversation when it comes to money is way more intimate than sex.
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I’ve been following this thread with interest. It’s interesting to learn how different people deal with divorce. And all the many issues involved. You seem to have many. As most do. But you make many curious statements. Now your husband is threatening your son ? Why is your daughter telling you to be “careful “ ? Are you prone to anger ? Do you have a problem with alcohol ?
You said your mom was an alcoholic. I’m asking because I’ve dealt with similar issues. Seems like your daughter is “ threatening you “. I have adult children who I could care less what they think of me. I busted my *** trying to “fix” things with them. They need to learn how to deal with their own issues ! Like growing up ! Also , I cancelled most of my life insurance. You wouldn’t believe the blowback I got from my ex about that one ! Is that all she gave a s*it about ! Inheritance, ha ! In short , you must learn how to care about yourself ! Focus entirely on how to make things better for yourself. Then deal with the rest later !
You said earlier that you were “strong”. Doesn’t seem that way since your life looks like it’s being directed by others. And you seem to have personal issues that need to be addressed. That’s probably why you posted here to begin with. Finally I have to comment on your last sentence. Your conversation with your boyfriend about money is more intimate than sex !!! What does that mean ?
You better watch out for all the leeches out there looking for women that are in your position.
Don’t take what I’m saying the wrong way, please. I’m just trying to share my experience and want to see you come out on top !
I wish you the best.