Being kinder & more compassionate with yourself doesnt mean that you shouldnt firce yoyrself to learn from your mistakes though.

Being alone for me has been a time to define myself not in terms of someone else. I now know my values. I know where there is NO comprimise & when it is ok to a limit. I know that if I meet the right person, our values will complement each other & it wont be me giving too much or him giving too much. There will be a compatibility & if not, then there is no relationship. I dont have to grab at straws & make square pegs fit into round holes just to have a relationship. If we are NOT EQUALS intellectually, financially, emotionally, sexually, i wont waste my time even trying to make something work. I dont need anyone in my life that bad. Once you know yoyrsrlf, you know the kind of guy that you want...dont waste your time trying to force someone who doesnt fit ALL YOUR NEEDS not just feeling loved, into makibg a relationship work because in the end you will keep ending up the way you have in the past.