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Originally Posted by Fluffyraincloud
I should probably ask my friends this question, not strangers, but i don´t have any friends so uh, give me advice?
I´m 18, never traveled to another country by myself, feeling a lil scared. Basically i´m planning to visit my ex boyfriend (whom i still love and we´re still kind of friends with benefits). He lives in the country right next to mine so it´s a few hours train & bus ride. I´d be staying at a hotel, and then come over at his place to ya know. Have sex to put it bluntly.
The reason i´m asking this question is because i feel a bit apprehensive. He doesn´t want anyone to know that we´re seeing each other (i totally get that) but then i´d have to…..come up with a really good lie to my parents as to why i´m going away alone all of a sudden? Or do i lie and say i´m with friends? What if they find out? He said he didn´t want anyone to be angry at him because of me lol.
Should i visit him? We´re clear on that our relationship is not emotional, purely sexual, and i´m cool with that. Mostly. I´ll probably miss him a lot and just want him back.
What would you do in my situation? Visit him and have amazing sex and possibly make him change his mind, or not visit him at all and stay at home minding my own business?
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for so many reasons I would opt out of this visit. Personally I don't do friends with benefits anyway but even if I did, I would never do that with someone that ws hours away that required a long trip and a stay in a hotel. No sex, no matter how good is worth that.
Secondly, on top of that, if someone isn't comfortable with being seen with me, or that is ashamed or hiding the fact that I am hooking up with them, they don't deserve to share a bed with me for even a single night. Let alone have me spend money to fly, boat or train to them just to have said sex. I mean really, they are willing to get naked with you but don't have the backbone to have this fact public facing? As in letting people know you do this? This just screams that you're just a piece of meat to them all over the place. Sorry to be so blunt but it does.
I don't know if it is for you but is it worth hiding/lying/deceiving your family and/or loved ones just for this fling? Is it worth the amount of suspicion that may be raised because of this deception?
tldr; I'd stay home.