for so many reasons I would opt out of this visit. Personally I don't do friends with benefits anyway but even if I did, I would never do that with someone that ws hours away that required a long trip and a stay in a hotel. No sex, no matter how good is worth that.

Secondly, on top of that, if someone isn't comfortable with being seen with me, or that is ashamed or hiding the fact that I am hooking up with them, they don't deserve to share a bed with me for even a single night. Let alone have me spend money to fly, boat or train to them just to have said sex. I mean really, they are willing to get naked with you but don't have the backbone to have this fact public facing? As in letting people know you do this? This just screams that you're just a piece of meat to them all over the place. Sorry to be so blunt but it does.

I don't know if it is for you but is it worth hiding/lying/deceiving your family and/or loved ones just for this fling? Is it worth the amount of suspicion that may be raised because of this deception?

tldr; I'd stay home.