Hey ww, I'm sorry too. I'm not real good at the touchy feely sentiments, but they are there. I'm always trying to tune into irony it seems, and my irony radar is beeping away on the fact that the news media has elevated your struggle into the public arena so to speak. I'll keep this short, as I know it's kind of a long shot, but:

What about embracing this (like an Aikido move) and spinning it back? What I mean is that you could invite the media to hear more, but this time from you. With a combination of press releases from you, interviews etc, you may well be able to turn this in your favor. I don't know anyone who wouldn't side with you and your husband in the matter of protecting you children over beaurocratic insensitivities. Your story is very powerful. Most people in their gut would know you did the right thing and that they would have done the same or similar. Since the thing is out there now in public, via the press, you may discover an advantage in the involvement of many minds and hearts vs the exclusive attention of the courts and dumb officialdom.

Hang in ww. YOU DID NOTHING WRONG.