I'm so relieved to have found this thread today after googling "can't cope with full time work". It's comforting to know that there are others out there who feel the same way. I've come here to express my views on the matter, and also to rant about how my life is going at the moment.
I mean, surely there's more to life than this. Not that I'm suicidal or anything, but I think I'd rather die than to work 40+ hours a week for the rest of my life. I'm not coping well with life at all at the moment.
I live on my own, in an overpriced crappy flat which is far from work and is an awful place to live. I hate it so much. However, I know it's only temporary. I ended up there because I was training for work all summer outside of my city, and didn't have the time to research properties and go to viewings. Anyway, living far means I have to take two modes of transport to get to work. The commute is a killer. Whilst others are almost home, I've only just gotten on my first bus, and know I won't be home for at least another hour (depending on traffic). By the time I get home, there's so much to do. I LOVE cooking, but because of my routine, I haven't been able to dedicate any time towards it. I just cook whatever's most convenient and my diet has been poor for the past few months. I don't even get the opportunity to go grocery shopping much.
Sometimes, I get the odd thing during my lunch break, but I already have a heavy laptop bag to carry (which hurts my shoulders), so handling a huge grocery bag on top of that isn't exactly convenient. I wouldn't want to do it online, as I like to pick out fresh foods for myself and shop in multiple retailers to save as much money as I can. Shopping on the weekends is frustrating as hell. It's always best to go early but I wake up late because I gotta catch up on sleep, and by that time, there's less choice and too many people out and about. I miss being able to shop early on weekdays, when it's nice and quiet and I can shop stress-free.
Anyway, going back to my weekday evenings, they usually go a little something like this: eat dinner, relax for a bit, watch some TV, doze off with the light and computer still on, wake up around 2am, have something to drink, and go back to bed. I've really been neglecting myself lately. I've only been showering once a week, and I feel gross...I haven't been able to fit in the time to take care of myself and there's no way I'm waking up any earlier than 6 in the morning to wash. I already have a hard time organising myself as it is, so life's been a bit of a mess. I've been meaning to register to a GP for the past few months and I still haven't found the time to do it. Plus, I'm super bad at reminding myself to do stuff (possibly inattentive ADHD). There are also other things I need to take care of, that I'd usually do during the day, that I haven't had the chance to sort out.
My job involves sitting at a computer all day, and I do think it's decent compared to other jobs. I'm not constantly being watched over, and I don't have to deal with troublesome customers, as I would have to in retail. There's no pressure to socialise,
which is great for an introvert like myself, but there are a few people I've met up with outside of work (which has been nice). However, it really irks me that I see people at work more than I see anyone else in my life, particularly those who are actually important to me. It's sad, really, and my social life has been awful.
If I'd known years ago that this was all I had to look forward to for the rest of my life, I'd never had wasted all that free time I had back when I was wasting my time at uni (which I ended up dropping out of for my current position). I don't think I'm someone who wishes to dedicate their entire life to work. It seems like I'll be stuck in an endless cycle and will never get the chance to live the life I'd ideally want to live. That "ideal" doesn't even involve lots of money. Like others have expressed here, I just want freedom. I find it super difficult to organise myself, and there's barely enough time to fit my hobbies/interest into my already busy schedule. I honestly don't know how people do it.
I often hear people saying that it gets easier, but I don't think I'll ever come out of this mindset. Full time work is soul-destroying and will drive me insane if this is what I'm supposed to do for the rest of my life. It's not how I want to live. It's not that I hate the job itself, but I can't stand the fact that I'm required for 42.5 hours a week, and that the rest of my life is suffering because of it. It's not healthy at all. I'm barely functioning on a daily basis. I often have to stop myself from crying at work just thinking about it. There are so many skills I'd love to develop in my spare time but that 'spare time' doesn't even exist for me at the moment.
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