Thanks for trying to help continuously blue. When my son was not in recovery my ex was threatening to drive him to the bottom of his life in whatever way it took. My ex told my daughter that part of the settlement I got from him was hers, so she cautioned me on how I acted with her money. I grew up with an alcoholic mom, so I have a lot of learned behavior to work on. One of the things I learned was to stand up myself but not in a way that build a bridge to the person I had a conflict with. I want to learn how to say how much I love my family, and to stand firm on what boundary I want them to respect, and to find out where they are coming from. I recently learned how to respect my mom's boundaries, now I have a relationship that is as warm as the one I have with my postman, but we talk respectfully and I look for warmer love elsewhere.