Yes, well, I believe I fed into the fantasy he painted of himself as being this "good" honest and honorable person. I wanted to believe him, I wanted to be in love. The first time he stole earrings for me I should have walked away. I saw his true character then. But I believed his lies about it.... I wanted to believe him. He painted such a nice portrait of himself.... I fed into it hook line and sinker. Then when we lived together, the reality of him was quite different. I saw the extreme immaturity, the complete lack of responsibility, the lack of motivation, the alcoholism and the abuse. Even after all of that, I wasn't willing or ready to let go. I still wanted the fantasy. My therapist says I was living in a fantasy world, and this is true. I wanted him to be different than he was..... and he wanted to be different than he was. He is very GOOD at manipulation, so I let him manipulate me. I allowed this.... I believed his lies. Now I see it all in truth and it's sinking in more and more each day how bad he actually is and how far my vision of him is from the real truth. I see where I went wrong. I definitely should have walked away the moment he stole those earrings.
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