Our 20/20 hind sight is what we can learn from but definitely not something to beat up ourselves over.

Ugh, the red flags I saw before I got married & even wanted to call off the wedding for were the same things I finally left for 33 years later.

I RATIONALIZED those red flags away thinking them not possible so went ahead with the wedding. Wasnt happy so got list un gettjng my degree then my career instead of ending it. When the career collapsed that was when thebREALUTY if those red flags before the wedding smacked me in the face but I still didnt understsnd at the time.

All that has been what I learned from. Wasted time in my life...in terms of relationship YES. NIT wasted in terms if whst i have kearned & grown from it. That is what iur focus needs to be turned to after life didnt go the way we really wished it would.

Learning opportunities are very valuable in life.